The other day a friend had asked me about an old best friend I used to hang out with for 9 years. He’d asked if I felt like everything was a waste? If I was offended that I didn’t get invited to an event. To be honest, my answer was no to both questions.
Nothing is a waste. We have friends that are only here for a season. Some will stay and some will go. God is pruning and making adjustments and this is the time where I learn, grow and mature. As I look back, I can see why God had to prune my friend’s list or any relationships. It was His way of saving me from heartaches, grief, drama or any other unnecessary pain.
You see, God plans for us is far more in advance than we could ever see. At the moment, we’ll experience some grief because a close friend or boyfriend/girlfriend left us, instead we need to look at the bigger picture…
1. What is God trying to reveal to me?
2. What did I learn from that relationship? How can I grow from my experience?
3. What season is this now? What is His will for me during this time?
4. Yes, friends come and go, but the ones God keeps around will help us grow spiritually.
5. I acknowledge that this is a NEW season. Don’t deny it. Accept it and let God do what He wants to do in us.
Now, if I had the same friends, I wouldn’t be where I am today. I would’ve settled. God doesn’t want you to settle or you’ll miss out on your destiny. What a terrible tragedy that’d be because there’s so much more to life! He came that we may have life and have it abundantly. John 10:10
I’m here to tell you that in this new chapter there will be some growing pains. Yes, you will feel brokenhearted and lonely or maybe even abandoned. The great news is along the way.. on this journey call life you’ll always make new relationships. Allow God do the pruning and what’s necessary so you may go where He wants you to go.. that you’ll be in His will. Grow from your experience. Don’t feel remorseful and don’t feel condemned. Romans 8:1 It’s a new season, it’s a new chapter. Embrace it.
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Rom. 8:28