I have been on the search for great resources on how to love difficult, frustrating, impossible to love people. Came across a few things but Beth Moore was one that really spoke to me. I wanted to share a few things that I learned from her! Who here loves Beth Moore? *Me oh me!!!*
It’s easy to be around other Christians and those alike, but never easy to be around those who are difficult to get along and nothing in common with! God’s LOVE is different from my “flesh” love. Flesh love ask, “what do I benefit from it? What’s in it for me?!” It’s self centered, selfish, and always looking out for my own interest. I’ll be honest, I don’t want to get hurt emotionally, if I can help it!
There are two types of love. Can you figure out which is God’s love? Agape love and Philos love.
Philos love is common interest love. Because you’re a Christian, our kids are home-schooled, you’re easy to get along with. Or, you like to scrapbook, we meet together often for lunch, scrapbook together and now we’re friends! Common interest.
Agape love is brotherly love. Love in best interest and not common interest. I love you because God’s working through me and He is looking out for YOU. We need to love them how they NEED to be love and not necessarily how they want to be loved. Makes sense? “I’m going to love you because the Father used me to love you specifically so that it may bring healing into your life. I will not love you the way you want to be love because it’ll feed your flesh’s desire and have no substance. No meaning. All will disintegrate.”
When it comes to loving difficult people we don’t rely on our own strength but God’s. His Love will help us to love difficult people.
1. Create in my a clean heart O’ Lord, teach me to love like you love, I rely on Your Spirit working in me.
2. Be sensitive to their needs. Not wants. Like mentioned above, we love them the way they need to be loved. Sometimes they’ll push us away, and we know very well that is not what they need nor best for them.. Yet we’re still close to them. Relentless Love. Ever heard of this quote, “hurt people hurt people?” We need to remember that they’ve been hurt one way or another. Be sensitive.
3. Don’t try to be their savior. You’re not Christ.
4. Love with purpose and intention! Love is not blind. It is action, doing it with wisdom, knowledge, and opening up your eyes! My favorite quote is, “Love is not blind; that is the last thing that it is. Love is bound; and the more it is bound the less it is blind.”
And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment,10 so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God. Phil 1:9-11
Love one another with Agape love! Remember, it’s all about Him and not us. ♥
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