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I have been on the search for great resources on how to love difficult, frustrating, impossible to love people. Came across a few things but Beth Moore was one that really spoke to me. I wanted to share a few things that I learned from her! Who here loves Beth Moore? *Me oh me!!!*
It’s easy to be around other Christians and those alike, but never easy to be around those who are difficult to get along and nothing in common with! God’s LOVE is different from my “flesh” love. Flesh love ask, “what do I benefit from it? What’s in it for me?!” It’s self centered, selfish, and always looking out for my own interest. I’ll be honest, I don’t want to get hurt emotionally, if I can help it!
There are two types of love. Can you figure out which is God’s love? Agape love and Philos love.
Philos love is common interest love. Because you’re a Christian, our kids are home-schooled, you’re easy to get along with. Or, you like to scrapbook, we meet together often for lunch, scrapbook together and now we’re friends! Common interest.
Agape love is brotherly love. Love in best interest and not common interest. I love you because God’s working through me and He is looking out for YOU. We need to love them how they NEED to be love and not necessarily how they want to be loved. Makes sense? “I’m going to love you because the Father used me to love you specifically so that it may bring healing into your life. I will not love you the way you want to be love because it’ll feed your flesh’s desire and have no substance. No meaning. All will disintegrate.”
When it comes to loving difficult people we don’t rely on our own strength but God’s. His Love will help us to love difficult people.
1. Create in my a clean heart O’ Lord, teach me to love like you love, I rely on Your Spirit working in me.
2. Be sensitive to their needs. Not wants. Like mentioned above, we love them the way they need to be loved. Sometimes they’ll push us away, and we know very well that is not what they need nor best for them.. Yet we’re still close to them. Relentless Love. 
Ever heard of this quote, “hurt people hurt people?” We need to remember that they’ve been hurt one way or another. Be sensitive.
3. Don’t try to be their savior. You’re not Christ.
4. Love with purpose and intention! Love is not blind. It is action, doing it with wisdom, knowledge, and opening up your eyes! My favorite quote is, “Love is not blind; that is the last thing that it is. Love is bound; and the more it is bound the less it is blind.”
And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment,10 so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God. Phil 1:9-11
Love one another with Agape love! Remember, it’s all about Him and not us. ♥
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The music is wonderful and the wall photo great . And the Revelation of God’s love and the fleshly love ugh on that . But God love agape love yes . Thank you <3
My Randy was saved last night.My love for Jesus and my prayers he become stronger in both our walks with Jesus be love. After 20 yrs of our love for each other and Jesus.Our struggles are only the beginning of so much grace in a unforgiving world.
We also feel besides these love’s you mentioned, Jesus gives us the love to be confused,disappointed and finally satisfied in knowing we dont walk alone and sometimes we are never alone even though out love for eachother is torrmented enough.God never lets me love ,alone
WE ARE ALL difficult people ,coming from such difficult lives that i find it hard to love all thngs and these troubles i give away. and Jesus finds away for me to understand ,that love loss is also a love ,even though its not there
I loss my mother in January and i was so confussed on WHO he loved. She may,at 81 been ready Lord ,but maybe i was’nt .so my prayer is
‘Thank you Lord ,for making ME realize it is about you and i know in my heart you have my friend,my life,my mother in a safe light with you as she walks in your home ,may she never forget my love for her and forgive me of all i never did tell her and things i wish i did’nt. I pray i never hurt her feelings and pray she walks with me as i walk with you …….amen
This is wrong. Phila is the city of brotherly love, that’s what the name means. Agape love is the love God has for all of us an everlasting, all-encompassing love. And there is one more kind of love, that is Eros or the love that leads you to say “I DO!” and we don’t need to include that in this post really, but there are three kinds as Jesus asked Peter three times How do you love me? Each time he asked it a different way, God loves us like a husband loves his bride too.
Okay, I hope that helps!
Thanks for sharing!!
The first two times Jesus asked do u agape love me, Paul replied I phileo love you. It’s the third time he asked it in a different way and that’s when Paul understood what Jesus really meant. John 21:15-19
Agape is a self sacrificing love
Phileo is a brotherly love
” A person cannot love God until or unless he knows how much God loved him because Gods love was everlasting and eternal. It was unconditional love”