Did you know that being lonely is not a sin? You will go through seasons of loneliness. Everyone does. When you start isolating yourself then it becomes an issue.
Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.-Proverbs 18:1
If you find yourself in this season for whatever reason, seek God and encourage yourself in the Lord. David did this! How? I’ll tell you how in a minute.. First, I want to share this excerpt with you,
God brings moments into our lives when we have to stand alone in difficulty and testing. God will even blind the eyes and deafen the ears of our closest friends in moments so we can learn to minister to ourselves. -Bil Johnson
There have been many times I’ve relied on my husband, friends, family for my emotional needs and if they weren’t around I would be hurt. Learning to minister and encourage myself was a challenge. it’s just you and God! It wasn’t until I realized that I had nothing, no one else but God that I could count on. You don’t realize God is all you need until you see that He is all you have.
Strengthening yourself in the Lord.
1. I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you. – I meditate on the WORD of God day and night. I speak them aloud so it gets into my SOUL. Here are a few that I use.
The Lord’s eye is upon me because I fear Him, I wait for Him and hope in His mercy and loving kindness. Psalm 33:18
Hope deferred makes my heart sick, but when my desire is fulfilled, it is the tree of life. Proverbs 13:12
I am sticking with God. I say it over and over again- He’s all I got left. He proves to be good to me and to all who passionately wait and diligently seek Him. – Lamentations 3:24
Everything that was written in the past was written to teach me so that through endurance and the encouragement of Scriptures I might have hope. Romans 15:4
But his delight is in the law of the Lord, And in His law he meditates day and night. He shall be like a tree Planted by the rivers of water, That brings forth its fruit in its season, Whose leaf also shall not wither; And whatever he does shall prosper. Psalm 1:2
2. So faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the word of GOD – I always have CDs/DVDs nearby. In the car and at home. It is on constantly running in the background. While busy tending to other things, my mind is constantly getting fed as well as my inner man without being aware of it!
3. And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. – Hebrews 10:25 – Meet with friends, family, mentors, pastors for coffee. Talk, hang out, tell them what you’re going through and would like prayers, this way they know how to pray for you. Don’t isolate.
4. Prayer – Connect to God through prayer. As I reached out to Him, He supplied to me joy overflowing. He nurtured me and loved me all the way through that lonely season. Staying connected with God is vital. You can’t afford to be without Him. It’s too big of a risk.
Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. – 1Peter 5:8
I pray that in this season you will reach out to God allow His love to permeate you. He will do a mighty work in you. Enjoy it for it is a season. It may be a long season or a short one, depending on our attitudes. Know that you are never alone. I’ve been on this journey before and spoken to many friends who knew what I was feeling. In some weird odd way it gave me a sense of comfort and some reassurance. The enemy wants to make us feel alone, insecure, and ashamed, don’t give in!
God’s love to all!
I encourage and empower Christians through the love and grace of Christ.
My name is Janice. English is my second language. Creator of 
Loved this! Just what I needed. A reminder that I am never alone.
God is always with me.
I’ve come 2 believe dat one can’t too far doing it alone! We can’t do without d gifts of God among men. We need 2 let loose of our struggles 4 God 2 have His way in our lives.
People tell me that when I learn to be happy by myself and only with God, that’s the time God will bring me my future husband. I believe that, and every day I love God more.
I hope you are encouraged and realize the test or trial you are in now is not a goal or a maturity that one must reach BEFORE God sends you a mate.
The journey thru life is not always a shared journey with another human companion.
I have been estranged from my my wife for almost two years. We were married in 2004.
No infidelity or affairs has caused our estrangement.
I do not understand why but only ask that GOD teaches me to be more reliant on him.
I have really been reading many Psalms . Psalms 91 has been a real encouragement to me.
I pray your time being without a mate is a time of growing with GOD and your relationship is made strong and comforting .
Be Patient and know GOD doesn’t with hold GOOD things from us. He may make us wait but for other reasons we Don’t understand or realize.
I have not received answers from my LORD but I am growing to understand my questions need not be answered by GOD for me to TRUST him.
I can leave you with a verse of encouragement Proverbs 3:5………
Read it first thing in the morning for a few days and ask GOD to help you place it’s truth in your heart.
Be Blessed….
Respectfully T.L. Scott
I relate much of this,cause sometimes i also felt this way of being alone,but rather we are not..its just a way of God to make us realized how much we are loved by Him.. that we are not alone..Godbless us all
dear madonna,,i believe on what u’ve said that if u delight urself in the Lord,He will u ur heart’s desire(Psalm 37:4)bcoz it happened to me.God is faithful to His words..
If God would have told me I would still be single after these 22 years of divorce I probably would have panicked and been searching everywhere for a husband. He knew I needed rest, to spend more time with Him alone and in the Word, that I didn’t want to make another mistake. I was saved right after& know what a good christian man is & I want nothing but the BEST God has chosen for me. And so I wait, I pray for this man and always try to look my best ‘expecting’ God knows how much I like surprises and I told him I want this man to tell me without any doubt that I AM the ONE God has sent him. Then I will know. He has shown me thru a friend what a Godly christian man looks like. He always gives me previews. My children left home without a thanks,goodbye. My siblings didn’t want to hear about my faith. I lost my father and my mother has alzheimers and is far away. I chose good(not perfect) christian friends and joined a church singles study group. I go to where good christian men are volunteering also. I won’t be led to anyone sitting at home brooding. I may be alone but I am not lonely! This man I pray for is worth the wait. Jesus is with me. I am the bride of Christ. I don’t need a man to fulfill me-Jesus is my heavenly husband and father.He is providing for my needs until employment comes which I feel is soon. He never gave up on me and I will not give up on Him! Be encouraged! He loves us! We are children of the King!
I’m just tired….tired of being alone. I have people telling me, “Your blessing is just around the corner!” My question to them is “How big are the blocks?”. That’s when they look at me like I have three heads and move on to someone that will put up with that mindless drivel. I had been separated for three years and the divorce just went through. I can not say that I am a happy camper and mere platitudes really annoy me. I know that the Lord has my back, but this is a very trying season for me and I am at my wits end at times with grief and loneliness.
You reminded me of me yet I traveled a little bit farther. I too was divorced, lost my CA home, kids diaspora, left my state job, returned my new Chrysler van and many more since 1998. God found me in the “desert land, in the wasteland, a howling wilderness” Deuteronomy 32:10-12– and, which are the foundation Scriptures of my re-birth. In short, God is still working in the areas of our brokenness. You are not alone, Ed … you are one of many very special vessels … lean on God, ask of God your daily wisdom, and reason with Him. Your giving today is your tomorrow!
me too, i cry myself to sleep sometimes, i feel so alone, i have no one except my loving precious child. And when he’s off to school I am all alone! The feeling is so heart wreching and over whelming.I pray and ask god please lord send me a companion.I am tired also of being alone..
Thank You God for this wonderful messages and thank you Janice for being such a great sister in Christ ! I denied reading this several days for I said to myself I didn’t feel lonely. Today I cried out for some reasons and yes, I am here now reading this ! Praise God ! And, thanks for reminding me that don’t isolate. It is very important issue, and we need their prayers indeed. I will meditate on those verses, for they are the truth God’s told us.
Thank you so much my beloved sister ! May God keep blessing your page abundantly !
PS. I am not sure you meant Lamentations 3:25 instead of 3:24 ?
Amen! What an amazing pick-me-up! I feel so refreshed after reading that & am making a few adjustments to my daily life. Thank you!
Awesome post. I am super encouraged. God Bless you!
my daughters and my husband are abroad there are times that i cry but when i think that they are safe healthy and happy i’m relieve we may be separated by distance but God has been good and taking care of us and that’s enough
Not that’s how you defeat the enemy!Keep it up! We have so much to be thankful for! If only we can keep that perspective we’ll be in good shape!
I can relate with this a great deal. I’m going through a hard time in my relationship…like it’s going to end @ anytime. I feel very lonely like there’s I’m all by myself,there’s № one to talk to cos i stay alone. But in this depressing moments,though not easy,but i’ve found comfort in God’s word. At times during my devotions i feel as if the writer knew me personally. I also find comfort in listening to music.
wow, i really needed to hear this today!! I have been battling this for the last week. Thank u so much for the advice and encouragement. It was much needed
Melissa people have been battling this for years!
Your post has saved a soul tonight:) I thank Jesus for speaking through you….
This really was a awesome studys and it really spoke to me . It was a great revelation of knowing God is meeting my need and letting me know he is near and care about what I’m going through . My husband has been sick and than I learn my oldest son hung himself in the appartment him and his wife were living in . she came back and found him hanging . they were about to lose there home and she was going to her sisters and he didn’t want to go with her . Knowing he have to go to the shelter he decided to hang himself . He was in Texas El Paso . This is a son from an ex-relationship . His father isn’t taking it to well . It just so shallow to see . I love my Husband Dale and he’s been really good to me . Oh I’ve been hurt by him But God show me mercy and pick me up from the pit of death and has heal me little by little . But my husband hasn’t been doing good and Feeling pretty down with all this . Keep me in your prayers I find myself doing stupid things … But I know God will see me through . I had to cut off talking to the ex-relationship with Him saiding he still loves me . but I don’t feel that type of love for him . just the love God loves us with . I hope he finds someone that will come into his life and share Christ Jesus with him and the love he has for him . GBU <3
May his soul rest in peace…I will pray for you , your son and all your family tonight
I hope you get past this period quickly and smoothely. Keep your faith up! He is a God of love and does not delight in our suffering. He will see you through.
Wow! This message has really sunk in! I have the tendency to withdraw and overthink instead of talking about things. And even when our friends may not give us the compassion we seek we must go straight to God for comfort. Thats always been an issue:trust and compassion. God is enough!
I have been having such a hard time with this.. and the thing is there is no one around for me to hang out with or talk to.. everyone else has their own life or are doing their own thing.. makes it harder and one feel more alone
Hi Nina,
I think I might know how you are feeling. Maybe you could join a small group at your church (or another church if your church doesn’t have one).
Take care.
Hi Tina: I feel the same. We moved from CT to VA and although we have been here a few years, I still have not made friends. I don’t work because of health. I too feel everyone (family) have their owns stuff and I do know they don’t understand my health issues and are tired of them. Too bad we don’t live close enough to meet. But, if you would like to communicate via email that would be nice. That is up to you. And I do feel that feeling this way is a way of God showing us that we are to seek him because he is always there and cares like no one else. God Bless you and I will send prayers.
I’m sorry, Nina not Tina
God wil see us thru when we feel lonely,his presence wil restore joy.
Indeed I agree with you, reading and meditating on scripture is an effective way of ministering to our selves especially when we feel desolate. We get to hear the Lord speak to us and address our very source of desolation!